A great sex life doesn’t just happen. It requires patience, understanding, and experimentation. To keep things exciting, it’s vital that you’re open-minded and willing to put in the required effort. Our best sex expert tips ad tricks will get you on track fast!
Whether your sex life is currently experiencing a temporary dry spell, or you want to overcome a mismatched libido issue, our practical tips can help you and your lover reignite arousal, desire and passion in the bedroom (or wherever you fancy getting your rocks off!).
Focus on You
It’s a medical fact that sex is good for your wellbeing. Every orgasm that you experience floods your body with the feel-good, mood enhancing hormone oxytocin. Having regular sex can help to reduce stress and depression, improve your heart health and quality of sleep, and also elevate your self-esteem.
Focusing on your own sexual needs, before you attend to your partner’s, is important if you want to be a better lover. Schedule some ‘me time’ for intimacy, and learn to understand your own body and how it reacts to self-stimulation. Use sex toys and a water-based lube to explore your sweet spots at leisure.
Think about what really turns you on, and use your senses to focus on your body sensations. Make a mental note of what floats your boat, and playfully explore it the next time that you’re engaged in sexual intimacy with your partner.
Communicate clearly
To enjoy the best sex, it’s essential to communicate your wants and needs clearly.
As it’s highly unlike that your partner is a skilled mind reader, you will need to openly discuss your most intimate desires. Pay attention and listen to each other, to ensure that you both understand your individual preferences.
During sex, keep the communication going by letting your partner know that you love, like or aren’t keen on what they’re doing. Clearly communicate what feels good by offering sounds of encouragement, such as moaning with pleasure when they touch your super sensitive erogenous zones.
It’s also a good idea to use your body to convey what feels enjoyable. Adjusting your position can let your partner know that you’re into their hot moves. It’s also ok to communicate without words by gently moving and directing their hands to the most sensitive to the touch areas of your body during foreplay and intercourse.
Relax
Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and fun. But it’s hard to get into a frisky mood when you’re feeling stressed and your body is tensed up.
Get into the healthy habit of creating a relaxing environment that’s ready for the exploration of pleasure together. Use candles, music and your favourite scent to prepare a romantic space for lovemaking.
Play soft, sensual music and sit or lie down to practice a few relaxation exercises. To get more in tune with your bodies during sex, practice mindful deep breathing and meditation. Gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes (and souls) for a few minutes creates a harmonious bond with your partner.
Enhance intimacy
It’s estimated that in the UK, nearly 3,500,000 men have trouble getting and maintaining an erection, while a similar number of women experience vaginal dryness. To help overcome these common arousal difficulties, include massage in your foreplay experience.
The best lover never skimps on the foreplay. Extended time spent touching, caressing and kissing each other boosts sexual arousal and enhances intimacy.
Pour a little of your favourite aromatic scented massage oil into your cupped hands, and then gently rub your partner’s chest, belly, groin, and inner thighs. As you slide and glide your warm hands over their skin listen out for satisfied moans.
To reach a higher state of mind-body consciousness, and enhanced orgasms, get into the sacred tantric yab-yum position. One person sits with their legs crossed, and their partner sits on their lap, wrapping their legs around their waist. As you embrace, try to synchronise your breathing. You can masturbate each other in this position or engage in penetrative sex.
Try something new
Nothing makes sex feel more like a chore than sticking to the same routine. Don’t put up with low standard sex, just because it pleases your partner. Your gratification satisfaction is equally important.
Change things up by trying something new, in a fresh location. Experiment and explore sexual fetishes, role-play games, BDSM or other erotic kinks. Treat yourselves to a stash of new adult toys that promise to deliver heightened sensations.
Book a weekend away, and commit to enjoying an unforgettable sexual experience with your lover. When you prioritise your time you create more opportunities for exciting sexual intimacy that enhances and strengthens your romantic relationship.
Practice mindfulness
Thinking too much about other stuff is guaranteed to put a dampener on your sex life. Make a pact to practice mindfulness whenever you’re in the mood to get up close and personal.
Leaving your everyday worries and concerns outside of the bedroom, frees you to focus solely on being in the moment with you partner, and enjoying the best sex ever.